BF-GF vs Hubby-Wifey

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I stumbled upon a question in Girltalk about the difference in the relationship between dating couples and married couples. What changed between then and now? So instead of posting my answer there, I decided to share it on my blog instead.

So here’s our experience then and now:

Noon
– lagi ko syang gustong kasama, hindi lalampas ang isang week nang hindi kami magkikita. Kahit pagod na pagod sya, punta sya sa bahay namin.
Ngayon
– Kahit more than a week kaming bakasyon ng daughter ko sa parents ko, kaya naming hindi magkita, LOL!

Noon
– I just acknowledged his weaknesses, but did not really make a big deal about it. Yet, I braced myself for it.
Ngayon
– His weaknesses are sometimes irritating, but not enough to fight over it, na pag-uusapan pa namin. Kasi tinanggap ko na.

Noon
– friendly friends with the in-laws, no issues or anything
Ngayon
– I need to push back when they sometimes cross their boundaries. Naging malaking issue ito.

Noon…
– pag-ihahatid nya na ko sa bahay, parang nakakabitin
Ngayon…
РSince we own our time, marami kaming quality time, which is both our predominant  love language.

Noon…
– nag-sosyo kami sa business, maraming away and disagreements
Ngayon…
– Sya na muna yung nagmamanage while I stay at home, kaya wala nang away.

Noon…
– sya yung laging umaamo sa aken
Ngayon…
– natuto na akong umamo and mag-sorry, pero need more improvement.

Noon…
– Pa-baby ako
Ngayon…
– Konti na lang

Looking back, the biggest challenge that we’ve had was the involvement of my in-laws. It took me a long time to realize that I should learn to be assertive with them.

But aside from that, our adjustment period has been pretty smooth, from honeymoon stage to disillusionment stage. Now, I just don’t know what stage are we.

What greatly helped me in the transition and adjustment was that, I read marriage books when we were still boyfriend-girlfriend, especially the Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood. And then we’re also active in a prayer community, so the talks we hear together were enriching our relationship.

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