The nature of loneliness


Several months ago, I wrote about feeling lonely and empty. I attributed this to the possibility of having no ministry and spiritual family. But now that I already have one, and I`m meeting new people and gaining new friends, I`m still feeling that same feeling. I realized that returning to the hustle and bustle of […]

My career is not my life`s purpose


​Ever since I finished college, the period where one experiences a quarter life crisis, I have often wondered what on earth am I really here for. And at the time, I thought that this existential question can be answered with the type of career that one chooses. Thus, this was when I used passion and […]

How I choose novels to read


I love reading novels. I can transcend myself through time and space. I can experience another life by living vicariously through the characters in the story. And most of all,  I get to learn more about life and human nature. But in the end, after relishing the whole story, comes another question: “What am I […]

Conversing with a stranger


I was in college when I learned how to crack a conversation with a stranger. I deliberately practised it, which at the time, required lots of guts from me, until I became comfortable with it. It was nice. I still do it to this day. I get to know people even if I only meet […]

Why I don’t confide to friends… much


There’s a part of me that wants to share my struggles with some people and friends. Even though I love to listen, I also need to be listened to. But for the most part, I’m a bit hesitant to confide because I’m paranoid to get unsolicited advices as I have experienced before. Most people, when […]

Feeling Empty


There’s a void in my heart that I couldn’t explain. It’s as if something is missing in my life that makes me unhappy and empty. These feelings are pronounced whenever I am bored, alone, or at times, even with other people. And when I analyze it, which I often do, I would think that maybe […]

It`s hard to be a loving person


One hallmark of a holy person is being loving. That`s what struck me as I listened to Bo Sanchez in one of our homeschooling seminars. I really wanted to be a person who is overflowing with love, not just for her loved ones but for all people, for all creation, and most of all for […]

Broken hearted husbands


For the past several weeks, I`ve been receiving FB messages and emails from husbands having a problem with their wives, who have fallen for somebody else. They felt so hopeless and helpless as they seek help from me. They would even want me to talk to their wives and would even give me the names […]

Loving my wounded, infant self


You have probably heard that the emotions of a pregnant mother affect her baby. That`s why it`s quite common to hear people advise expecting mothers: “try not to be stressed,” “be happy always,” “don`t let your problems affect you.” And on and on their well-meaning advice goes. Yet we just took this grain of truth […]

Your compliments and criticisms don`t define me


In the dance of nature, one doesn`t normally say to a bee, “Oh, you`re an excellent bee for creating such sweet honey.” No, we don`t do that. The bee is just doing what it is created for. So compliment it or criticize it, it will not be budged. It will keep on doing what it […]