Couple Problem: Contradicting financial goals


Mark and Lisa, a young couple married for two months, came to me for counseling. They couldn’t seem to find a solution with their contradicting financial goals. Mark wanted to be generous with his family-of-origin — treating them dinners regularly and shouldering family vacations occasionally. On the other hand, Lisa wanted to save as much […]

When he fell out of love


A wife wrote about her husband who told her that he has fallen out of love. He said that he still cares, but feels no spark anymore. This sentiment is not new to hear. I guess it’s being used by people who want an easy way out of the relationship. Now I can’t help but […]

BF-GF vs Hubby-Wifey


I stumbled upon a question in Girltalk about the difference in the relationship between dating couples and married couples. What changed between then and now? So instead of posting my answer there, I decided to share it on my blog instead. So here’s our experience then and now: Noon – lagi ko syang gustong kasama, […]

Do you love your husband more than yourself?


In counseling, I’ve encountered several women who don’t know if they love themselves or not, much less identify the ways with which they are loving themselves. To them, loving oneself seems foreign, like it was the first time they’ve ever heard of it. They were the only one doing all the job in a toxic […]

Confiding to your spouse

couple TAT

Two weeks ago, I took a projective test to fulfill one of our requirements in my graduate course work. In this projective test, I was asked to narrate my own story based on my interpretation of a particular picture assigned to me.  This revealed my internal thought process at the time when I took the […]

Emotionally Distant Husband

Unhappy Couple In Living Room

S described her marriage as emotionally draining, unfulfilling, and frustrating. She feels so alone in her six years of marriage as her husband could not emotionally connect with her. Sometimes it feels like she`s married to a robot, someone who is incapable and uncomfortable with any display of emotion. She is tired in engaging her […]

Silent Treatment in Marriage


In marriage, conflicts and misunderstandings are inevitable. That is why conflict management through open communication is highly important for the success of any relationship. Not only does it help resolve conflict, it also increases the emotional connection between spouses. However, when one spouse is using silent treatment, the open communication, which results to emotional bonding […]

Why Your Husband Fights, Walks Out, or Ignores You When Confronted?


Have you ever been frustrated with your husband’s response when you air out your grievance? You wanted to talk about an issue in your relationship, resolve a conflict, and be heard because you were hurt. But to your utter dismay, you’d get nothing. In some instances you noticed some reactions from him whenever you attempt to […]

Are You a Sweet Wife?


Ask my husband if I’m a sweet wife and I’m pretty sure he’ll just laugh at your question. That’s one thing he kept on airing out to me. He believes that I have no sweet bone in my body, to which I vehemently disagree (Of course I didn’t tell him this). Well, I’m not the […]

5 Levels of Intimate Communication


Why do some marriages thrive and why do others just merely survive? One answer could be on the communication levels with which married couples would consistently communicate with each other. John Powell, the author of the book Why I am Afraid to Tell You Who I Am, discussed the 5 levels of intimate communication. Understanding […]